I really like the idea of training your comfort zone to include others … so you can relax around them. I agree with the theory that 3/4 people in a group is optimum. In bigger situations, I panic that I’ve not paid enough attention to people or missed vital things 

Oxytocin – the cuddle hormone – social glue is something I crave but only on my terms. I’m not a hugger but I do love a hug from those I trust. 

The idea of belongingness is definitely one I can relate to. I need to feel safe in a group or in an environment to feel ok in any social situation.

Setting traditions, making memories … knowing that spending time with people doing those things will make things worthwhile.